[Mood: Unstable] [Mentally: Dizzy] [Physically: Tired] [State of Mind: Cramped]
I am so not myself today. I don't know why. Maybe it's the weather. Maybe it's the work I'm in. Lolz.
An "elephant" fell on us during work yesterday. An "elephant" meaning a HUGE load of work. Deadline: This Friday. This is hell. Wait, worse than hell. But I'm getting the hang of it. Lemme try to explain what I see in most families without revealing my type of work.
- There are people who actually smoke up to 40 cigarette sticks per day.
- An average person owns at least 5 credit cards.
- One average person I saw, own 17 credit cards!
- One person, whom I would say has a very wonderful salary, has no credit cards!
- Many families own vehicles which are being paid by installments.
- Some people take loans, to pay for other loans!
- A family of 5 with 4 people working, and high household income, does not own a vehicle!
What can I learn, or what can we ALL learn from this? Well, one thing I realized is that marriage is more than meets the eye. House payments, car payments, tax, credit cards, children's education, cable tv, electrical/water bills, and the list goes on. I guess we should never bite off more than we can chew.
My dad taught me never to borrow money from people. What we usually label as
hutang, or "utang" is spoken in Singlish. And I think that's true, because it will really take a big load off your shoulders. I have experienced quite a number of occasions where I am totally (and I mean totally) dried up financially, and almost everyone around me doesn't see it, not even my parents. I prefer to keep it quiet, unless of course, situation does not permit. Especially with handling 2 phone bills (I'm still holding on to my 9369----), it becomes a bigger task. But alhamdulillah, I managed to go through that patch, and now, I am a bit above the waterline, not quite drowning. Waiting for my pay to pull me out and into the safety boat.
With all these in mind, I guess my plan for "3 before 30" (3 children before 30 years old) is more or less out of the question for me. Unless, of course, I can get a very stable job by 26, and a very supporting wife.
Well, now's not the time to think about it. Not until 2 years later.
Haizz.